How To Have Great Sex!
Would you like to have sex with your partner that is more fulfilling, more exciting, and more pleasurable for both of you?
Some couples have great sex. Some have good sex. Some bad sex. Some have little to no sex.
Which category do you fall under and do you want to change things?
If, for whatever reason, you and your partner’s sex life isn’t great, maybe it is because you just had a baby, there are busy schedules and a lot of stress, or simply things have just slowed down over the years.
Obviously in a relationship, in order to have a better sex life, both parties must be included—it takes two to tango, right?
Or perhaps you and your partner are having a lot of sex but you want to improve the quality.
Realizing that there is a disagreement on the amount or variety of sex along with communicating about your sex life are the first steps to great sex.
Read up on some tips from taking your sex life from non-existent, bad, or good…to great!
Do your research:
Sexy, huh?
Sex may seem like an intuitive thing, but in some aspects it is not.
That doesn’t mean that it needs to have a clinical feel to it though.
There are a lot of reading materials and videos out there that can help you learn more about intimacy, pleasure, and adventure.
PDA:
Public Display of Affection is one way to keep things exciting outside of the bedroom.
It adds to the intimacy and sensuality as well as can get things going before getting back home and into the bed.
Foreplay is the right way:
Studies show that engaging in foreplay before doing the deed can help women reach the level of arousal they need to orgasm, as men and women have different sexual reaction times.
It also adds fun and variety so that every time you have sex, it doesn’t seem like a quickie.
Try new positions:
You may have your favorite positions, some may seem boring, some may seem great; but there are so many out there to try and exploring these can definitely add some spice to your sex life and, you may just find that you discover some new favorites.
Go to the toy store:
Toys are not-so-taboo anymore.
With the amount of adult stores, toy parties, and online selections out there, there is no reason not to browse, and you can even look from the comfort and privacy of your own home.
If an actual toy isn’t your thing, there are other items and accessories that can be fun to add some excitement.
Self-explore:
Get to know your own body. What do you like and dislike?
Where do you like to be touched the most?
Do you have insecurities and how do you go about feeling better about them while naked? What makes you feel sexy?
Avoid withholding sex when you are angry:
Withholding sex from your partner as a punishment is counter-intuitive if you ultimately want to reconnect.
Putting the argument or incident behind and continuing to have sexual and sensual experiences helps connect and bond a couple together through the hormones and pheromones that are released during sex.
In turn, sex can help you to get over whatever you and your partner were disagreeing about earlier that day.
Discuss fantasies/make a sex bucket list:
Being open about wants and needs as well as sexual fantasies in the bedroom can help add some flavor to your sex life.
Creating a sex bucket list can be a fun couple’s activity and can be even more exciting when checking off your list.
Keep the bedroom open only for sex and sleep:
The bedroom, or wherever sex mainly happens in your home, is viewed more pleasurably when it is only associated with sex and sleep.
When you watch TV in your bed, pile laundry all over it, have the kids and pets on and off of it—the bed can lose it’s intimate appeal.
Try keeping the door closed during the day.
Create a sexy/comfortable atmosphere by using candles and lamps instead of harsh lighting.
Keep things clean and organized, and try to get rid of distractions (phones, tablets, books, bills, etc.) when you’re in the mood.
Workout those parts:
Kegel Exercises – These exercises work and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles of both men and women which can help with performance, pleasure, and arousal.
To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream or simulate it by flexing that muscle area.
How To Do Kegel Exercises – Contract these muscles for a slow count of five. Release the muscles to a slow count of five. Repeat 10 times.
Do it daily and the great news is, you can do this workout anywhere without anyone else knowing.
Women – Keep your lady parts healthy and fit by doing Kegel exercises regularly. As women have children and age, muscles down there lose strength and tone. Kegel exercises can help to keep things in tip-top shape and can enhance sexual pleasure.
Men – Doing Kegels can increase blood flow down there and can help with more powerful and longer-lasting erections. It also helps with general prostate and testicular health.
Get out of town:
Switching up locations for sex, especially getting out of town to a B&B, hotel, cabin, or vacation home can be something fun and different and add variety to your sex life.
Sometimes being somewhere new is just what you need to recharge your sex life.
Communicate:
None of the above can happen effectively for both partners unless communication is there.
Being open and honest about needs, wants, fantasies, insecurities, etc. is the key to a healthy and exciting sex life.
If you view your sex life as mediocre and want to revamp and recharge it, communicate with your partner about his/her opinion of it and see where differences and similarities lie.
You may realize that you both want the same thing and are both willing to be a little more adventurous in the bedroom.
Having a great sex life is important in a marriage in that it continues to secure a deep bond, helps couples reconnect, and adds excitement and spice.
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